Vicious to Virtuous (V2V) – Free On-line Recovery Resources for Porn and Sex Addiction - Knowing Exactly What Makes Addicts Cross the Line
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As we said in earlier modules, when you are addicted to porn and sex you are actually at war with your brain – it is dependent on happy chemicals and will do what it can to protect its daily or hourly fix when things get tough. Your brain will distort rational thought so that you give in to your cravings for these happy chemicals.
This module will show you which types of distortions your brain is using so that you can target them directly with your own, more powerful weapons – non-distorted, rational thoughts based squarely on the reality of your life, such as what is at stake if the distortions win.
This list covers most of the types of distortions your brain is using. Look at them and make a mental note of those that seem to be more familiar!
Twisted logic – when your brain convinces you that sexual addictive behaviours are actually quite a sensible and appropriate thing to do when in fact they are the opposite
Justifying – when your brain tells you that the porn and sexual behaviours are necessary and therefore justifiable, such as because you deserve them as a treat or ‘therapy’
Sheep mentality – this is when your brain tries to sway you by saying that everyone else is looking at porn so it is okay and normal for you to do it or even that you are missing out by not doing it
Blaming – the distortion is that the porn and sex addiction behaviours are somehow forced on you by someone or something else such as your partner, boss or your difficult circumstances
I’m special – this is your brain reminding you, irrationally of course, that you are indeed different from everyone else and have a right or special entitlement to porn and sex addiction behaviours for example because you work hard or are successful or have special needs
Denial – your brain convinces you that this is not an addiction and therefore you do not have a problem and any negative consequences are because of something else
Making light – this is your brain reducing the significance of porn and sex addiction behaviours so that they become almost negligible such as saying that you’ll only look at porn for 20 minutes or if no-one finds out there is little risk.
Mountain-making – this is the amplifying of life events so that they appear so overwhelming that negative consequences of the addictive behaviours seem minor and inconsequential by comparision.
Kryptonite effect – this is your brain convincing you that you have no choice but to give into cravings because you do not have the resources or strength to fight them.
