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Frequently asked questions

Answers to the most commonly asked questions about treatment for sex and porn addiction.


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Frequently asked questions about sex and porn addiction treatment.

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How confidential is the Esteem Therapy Service?

Confidentiality is of the utmost importance to the counselling relationship.  We guarantee confidentiality so that you can speak freely about your behaviours so we can plan treatment options accurately.  We do not disclose any of your details or information to any other persons or authorities unless in very rare cases we are worried about your welfare or that of others. We cannot guarantee 100% the security of data when completing online sessions and clients have to weigh up the risks of this mode of contact.

How do I know if I need counselling for sex addiction?

We provide a free 15-30 minute initial screening consultation to check that our services match your needs - call us to arrange your free call for this assessment. The first 2 sessions are a thorough assessment of your case and will confirm whether or not you will benefit from our services and if so indicate the best treatment options.  At all times the decision-making about treatment is in your hands.  We do not tie you in to a fixed number of sessions but you can buy blocks of sessions to help reduce the overall cost of treatment.

I am very embarassed about discussing my behaviours - how will this be managed?

Your disclosures will be heard and taken seriously and treated absolutely non-judgementally  I have heard most things so what you tell me is unlikely to be totally unique.  Discussing your behaviours and breaking down the secrecy is an important step in the therapy and treatment process.  Shame, guilt and embarassment are deeply wired into us and they serve a purpose of telling us something.  We can work with this as it probably means there is something about your behaviors that are harmful to you or others in some way and they need control and extinction.

How much do sessions cost?

Fees are displayed on our about Esteem Therapy Yorkshire page. Sesssions start from 41.00 depending on the format you select.  Once assessment is complete you can choose to pay for multiple sessions reducing the overall cost.  Standard hourly sessions cost 60.00.  If you are serious about getting help but finances are an issue please call us to discuss your situation so we can find a way to work together.

How many sessions will I need?

This varies from person to person and the assessment will give us a clearer picture of what you would benefit from most.  Some of our clients feel confident to cope alone after 8 sessions (approx 4 months) whilst others choose to continue up to 20 sessions over a 18 months period to work on the deeper roots of the sex and porn addiction.  At all times you can choose to close sessions or reduce the frequency of sessions and this is normally done after a discussion about your progress and any outstanding areas of the treatment plan.

How often will I attend sessions?

Initially, we advise weekly perhaps reducing down to fortnightly after 3 or 4 sessions depending on your finances or other commitments.

How can I fit sessions around my work patterns?

We will agree the most convenient day/evening slot for you but there is flexibility from one session to the next and options to alter sessions with 48 hour notice. Sessions can also be completed by telephone, video link or text chat.

Should my partner attend sessions?

I advise but do not insist that all partners attend for an information session so that they can learn about how the treatment works in general and to discuss their support needs and options.  I will not discuss with partners any details about your case. 

Should I tell my partner?

It is not a requirement to tell your partner you are having treatment for sex or porn addictive behaviours.  You alone have to make the judgement whilst considering the following questions; will your partner be understanding and supportive or will they find it too difficult to manage? Is your relationship strong and secure enough to handle disclosures of this sort?  What would happen if you kept this all a secret and your partner found out?

Will I be expected to stop behaviours immediately and go 'cold turkey'?

No, absolutely not as this may be counter-productive in the long-term.  We will work with you to arrive at the most appropriate recovery plan to suit your needs.

What does the treatment involve?

The term treatment covers a range of interventions from counselling and therapeutic discussions to coaching and practical 'homework' tasks.  As the treatment is about changing your behaviours it is very experiential, that is, we help you change by giving you things to try out and monitor improvements and the impact on your well-being and quality of life.  Treatment is unique to each client and is based on the thorough assessment and your learning style, for example some clients prefer writing and thinking tasks whilst others benefit more from experimenting with new behaviours.

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