Sex and Porn Addiction News

Sex and Porn Addiction - Negative Consequences Clients Have Experienced

If you have not experienced these yet then ask yourself if you are heading towards them and what is the level of risk?  Is it a high level of risk - such as getting found out or is it a lower level of risk such as not being in a relationship (many of the big negatives arise from relationships and family).  Actually, is it maybe a nonsense to even discuss levels of risk - when the loss of a career and reputation or destroying families are such high prices to pay that any risk is 'high'? Damage to Relationships This is the most commonly occuring negative consequence .. Read More

When did you get your porn bug?

You (or your partner) may be part of the on-line porn generation - that is you grew up as internet porn also exploded into the cyber world and took hold.  If that is the case you have found your way to this page probably because you (or your partner) also grew up using internet porn and it is becoming a problem in your lives. I am calling this generation affected by porn in this way as 'pornolescents' - porn has become etched into their psyche in ways that previous generations never got anywhere near.  I have written a blog here before about the normalising of porn - .. Read More

The Dangers of On-line Dating and Sex

I am probably telling you something you already know and I also recognise that the nature of addictive and compulsive behaviours means that this knowledge will be conveniently discarded (or distorted) to permit 'acting out'.  But it has to be said anyway - not everyone sees the news every day and miss the messages out there but also part of the fight against sex and porn addictions is amplifying the negative consequences as a protective measure. In the news this week there are two cases; one involving murders of young men seeking sex online and another involving the blackmail o.. Read More

Denial is the biggest block to getting treated for sex and porn addiction

Porn and sex addicts can stay in denail for many, many years before finally experiencing serious negative consequences which finally push them to get help for their problem.  Some of my clients have been in denial for 30 years, telling themselves that daily porn use or the use of escorts is somehow 'needed' or even 'normal. Denial is distorted thinking.  Addicts somehow manage to convince themselves, usually unconsciously and automatically, that their behaviours are not a problem and by doing so give themselves a licence to carry on self-destructing.  In most.. Read More

Superstars Seek Help for Sex Addiction too

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/sex-addiction-symptoms-and-help_uk_57a31a18e4b06c6e8dc6b812?ncid=webmail A recent news story in the Huffington Post reinforces what you will also find in this website and gives some helpful advice.  The article recommends going to ATSAC - the national organisation for therapists in sex addiction - to which Esteem belongs; and also recommends seeking help from a specialist - well, you are in the right place already at Esteem. Please bear in mind that if you go to a national counselling such as Relate, you might be on a waiting list for several month.. Read More