About Esteem therapy
About Esteem Therapy Yorkshire and fees
At Esteem Therapy, our mission is simply to help our clients improve their quality of life by bringing their sex or porn addictions and compulsive behaviours under control for good. All of our services are delivered confidentially.
Specialist providing treatment services for sex and porn addiction since 2013 with an extensive range of experience and well-tried and tested resources to help sex and porn addicts achieve recovery rapidly and sustainably.
Principal associate: Steve Sharpe BA (Hons), Adv.Dip.Couple Cllg (Relate), CIPD Adv. Cert. Coaching, ATSAC Professional Certificate in Sex Addiction, National Counselling Society (MNCS Accred), Member Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity.
I am a Relate-qualified and experienced couple counsellor with a specialist ATSAC qualification in sex and porn addiction treatment. I am a professionally qualified post-graduate executive and relationship coach and ran a successful business consultancy coaching senior and middle executives for over 20 years. After working as a relationship counsellor for Relate for 7 years I qualified with the UK’s leading body on sex and porn addiction treatment ATSAC in 2013.
I have been offering specialist sex and porn addition treatment now for 9 years in West Yorkshire and have successfully helped many clients. I am EMDR trained to work with trauma. I lecture in Psychotherapeutic Counselling Skills and Theory.
What Esteem Therapy Yorkshire Provides
- sex addiction and porn addiction counselling and treatment for individuals including excessive use of on/off-line porn, online sex chat behaviours, multiple relationships and affairs, paid-for sex, compulsive sexual behaviours, sexual behaviour disorders. I provide help for male and female addicts.
- partner support - this includes information sessions and sign-posting to other specialists who can help partners of my clients in an objective and unbiased way
- sessions can be face to face, telephone, video or zoom video.
- EMDR treatment for trauma
- general relationship and couple counselling
- general therapy for anxiety, stress, social and personal barriers, family issues
- sexual offenders and anyone at risk of, or worried about, sexual offending
About Our Service
Our service is totally confidential - we do not disclose any client's information to any external agency, authority etc except where personal safety of client or others is at risk
Our services work to the ethical codes of the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society
Sessions are mostly via phone, video call, text chat with in-person options in our offices in South Leeds and Wakefield.
Appointments are arranged flexibly to fit in with clients' work and life patterns
Fees
- Initial assessment session £45
- All other sessions per hour - £65.00 for all enquiries from 1st April 2023.
- Free 15-30 minute telephone consultation - to check your needs and if my service is right for you.
- I am willing to discuss deductions for those with financial constraints ie students, workless etc
- Discounted blocks of sessions (paid in full in advance):
- Block of 6 sessions (excluding first session) is £330 (£55 ea).
- Block of 9 sessions is £440.00 (£48.00 ea).
- "Full recovery" block of 12 = £540.00. (£45.00 ea)
What Clients Say
Frequently asked questions
Answers to the most commonly asked questions about treatment for sex and porn addiction.
Confidentiality is of the utmost importance to the counselling relationship. We guarantee confidentiality so that you can speak freely about your behaviours so we can plan treatment options accurately. We do not disclose any of your details or information to any other persons or authorities unless in very rare cases we are worried about your welfare or that of others. We cannot guarantee 100% the security of data when completing online sessions and clients have to weigh up the risks of this mode of contact.
We provide a free 15-30 minute initial screening consultation to check that our services match your needs – call us to arrange your free call for this assessment. The first 2 sessions are a thorough assessment of your case and will confirm whether or not you will benefit from our services and if so indicate the best treatment options. At all times the decision-making about treatment is in your hands. We do not tie you in to a fixed number of sessions but you can buy blocks of sessions to help reduce the overall cost of treatment.
Your disclosures will be heard and taken seriously and treated absolutely non-judgementally I have heard most things so what you tell me is unlikely to be totally unique. Discussing your behaviours and breaking down the secrecy is an important step in the therapy and treatment process. Shame, guilt and embarassment are deeply wired into us and they serve a purpose of telling us something. We can work with this as it probably means there is something about your behaviors that are harmful to you or others in some way and they need control and extinction.
Fees are displayed on our about Esteem Therapy Yorkshire page. Sesssions start from 41.00 depending on the format you select. Once assessment is complete you can choose to pay for multiple sessions reducing the overall cost. Standard hourly sessions cost 60.00. If you are serious about getting help but finances are an issue please call us to discuss your situation so we can find a way to work together.
This varies from person to person and the assessment will give us a clearer picture of what you would benefit from most. Some of our clients feel confident to cope alone after 8 sessions (approx 4 months) whilst others choose to continue up to 20 sessions over a 18 months period to work on the deeper roots of the sex and porn addiction. At all times you can choose to close sessions or reduce the frequency of sessions and this is normally done after a discussion about your progress and any outstanding areas of the treatment plan.
Initially, we advise weekly perhaps reducing down to fortnightly after 3 or 4 sessions depending on your finances or other commitments.
We will agree the most convenient day/evening slot for you but there is flexibility from one session to the next and options to alter sessions with 48 hour notice. Sessions can also be completed by telephone, video link or text chat.
I advise but do not insist that all partners attend for an information session so that they can learn about how the treatment works in general and to discuss their support needs and options. I will not discuss with partners any details about your case.
It is not a requirement to tell your partner you are having treatment for sex or porn addictive behaviours. You alone have to make the judgement whilst considering the following questions; will your partner be understanding and supportive or will they find it too difficult to manage? Is your relationship strong and secure enough to handle disclosures of this sort? What would happen if you kept this all a secret and your partner found out?
No, absolutely not as this may be counter-productive in the long-term. We will work with you to arrive at the most appropriate recovery plan to suit your needs.
The term treatment covers a range of interventions from counselling and therapeutic discussions to coaching and practical ‘homework’ tasks. As the treatment is about changing your behaviours it is very experiential, that is, we help you change by giving you things to try out and monitor improvements and the impact on your well-being and quality of life. Treatment is unique to each client and is based on the thorough assessment and your learning style, for example some clients prefer writing and thinking tasks whilst others benefit more from experimenting with new behaviours.
How do I know if I am an addict - self-assessment?
- Have the sexual behaviours been a key part of your life for many years?
- Are you drawn towards porn and other sexual activities at every opportunity ie being alone?
- Are you wasting a lot of time, energy and money on porn or other sexual activities which could be used for more rewarding things?
- Do you have a wish to control or reduce the behaviours but find it difficult to do so?
- Have the repetitive sexual behaviours negatively affected one or more aspects of your life such as relationships, couple sex, work, health, finances, mental health and friendships?