Sex and Porn Addiction – Negative Consequences Clients Have Experienced
If you have not experienced these yet then ask yourself if you are heading towards them and what is the level of risk? Is it a high level of risk – such as getting found out or is it a lower level of risk such as not being in a relationship (many of the big […]
Your Questions Answered
Probably the most common question I am asked by enquirers about their possible sex addiction or porn addiction is “Am I addicted?” Well there are several key indicators we can use to answer this and one is the very reason you have been prompted to look at this site – and that is that you are right […]
One of the chilling consequences of porn and sex addiction
Using porn sites, webcams, chatrooms and sexting can lead to ‘porn revenge’ when a previous ‘friend’ decides to get back at you. Don’t put yourself in this position where you risk your career, relationships, friendships and economic well-being. Recent news stories caught our eye here at Esteem Therapy Yorkshire. A recent storyline brings home the […]
Six Simple Ways To Build Bullet-Proof Commitment to Ending Your Sex or Porn Addicton
Commitment to change is the most critical element of being successful in achieving full recovery from addictive behaviours. Steely determination, willpower and/or partner ultimatums can go a long way but without personal commitment to the cause you may lack the emotional and psychological momentum to behave differently when it counts. Common to all addictions is the all-powerful […]
Bad Flow Bad, Good Flow Good – This Switch will Instantly Help Sex Addicts
FLOW experiences Flow is a word used to describe an optimal or peak experience. If you can master regular use of good flow experiences then you will have one of the most potent weapons against addictive behaviours on your side. By achieving flow experiences you will boost your feel-good neuro-chemicals so that negative feeling states are less […]
Sex Helps to Manage Anxiety
But…its not the right way to do it! What do I mean? If you-experience one or several of the many forms of anxiety such as social anxiety or general anxiety then you may have developed a coping mechanism. This might be compulsive sex or porn use which helps to relieve anxiety through the production of […]
Reasons Why People Become Addicted to Sex and Porn 1 Trauma
Rather than reasons I prefer to use the term ‘probable factors’. We can never know for sure but in most cases I can help a client understand the root probable factors that led them to become a sex addict or porn addict. Most of the time the factors are deep in an addict’s personal history […]
Reasons Why People Become Addicted to Sex and Pornography – 2. Relationships
Relationships are one of the most pervasive causal factors underlying the dependent use of sex and pornography. More specifically, how people respond psychologocally and behave in the relationship context, are high on the list of reasons to be addicted. How individuals respond within a relationship is the key here, not the quality of the relationship […]
What men do instead of talking.
Too many of my clients who come to me for sex addiction and porn addiction treatment do so because they can’t talk. They can’t talk to their partners, friends, family members or professionals who are trained to listen about the things that are bothering them. The result? Surprise!…they turn to escape-like behaviours to ward off […]
You Don’t Have To Be a Dog!
A renowned behavioural scientist taught dogs to salivate at the sound of a bell. Pavlov discovered ‘classical conditioning’, a process by which our brains can be automated to respond to certain stimulii. In these situations the link between stimulus and response becomes so automatic, it slips out of conscious awareness – perhaps into something sometimes […]