Pointers for Partners (of sex and porn addicts)
Many partners contact me for help and information about how to deal with their partner’s compulsive sexual behaviours. If this is your situation you might find the following reflections from my dealings with partners helpful. How Esteem Therapy can help partners – I can offer partners counselling support during a difficult time of discovery, disclosure or […]
Is Porn Use Normal?
Perhaps the answer to this depends on your moral standpoint or what your values are. Or maybe porn use is a generation-sensitive activity ie the internet makes it more ‘normal’. Whatever your personal response to this question is, the fact remains that there are some aspects of porn use that we can be absolutely certain […]
The Dangers of On-line Dating and Sex
I am probably telling you something you already know and I also recognise that the nature of addictive and compulsive behaviours means that this knowledge will be conveniently discarded (or distorted) to permit ‘acting out’. But it has to be said anyway – not everyone sees the news every day and miss the messages out […]
When did you get your porn bug?
You (or your partner) may be part of the on-line porn generation – that is you grew up as internet porn also exploded into the cyber world and took hold. If that is the case you have found your way to this page probably because you (or your partner) also grew up using internet porn and […]
Sex and Porn Addiction – Negative Consequences Clients Have Experienced
If you have not experienced these yet then ask yourself if you are heading towards them and what is the level of risk? Is it a high level of risk – such as getting found out or is it a lower level of risk such as not being in a relationship (many of the big […]
Your Questions Answered
Probably the most common question I am asked by enquirers about their possible sex addiction or porn addiction is “Am I addicted?” Well there are several key indicators we can use to answer this and one is the very reason you have been prompted to look at this site – and that is that you are right […]
Reasons Why People Become Addicted to Sex and Porn 1 Trauma
Rather than reasons I prefer to use the term ‘probable factors’. We can never know for sure but in most cases I can help a client understand the root probable factors that led them to become a sex addict or porn addict. Most of the time the factors are deep in an addict’s personal history […]
Sex addiction – basic guide.
Sex and porn addiction can include excessively indulging in one or a combination of some of the following most often in secret: Porn – on/off-line images and film On-line chatting, sexting and dating via ‘hook-up’ apps Use of regular dating sites when already in a good relationship On-line use of sex workers such as web […]
How Sex and Porn Addiction Affects relationships
A high number of clients seek help for their compulsive porn use and sex-related addictive behaviours because their relationship with their partner is put at risk. Until their partners say that they are unhappy and are ready to leave many addicts do not even recognise their behaviours as unhealthy or potentially damaging. They stay in denial […]