Reasons Why People Become Addicted to Sex and Pornography – 2. Relationships
Relationships are one of the most pervasive causal factors underlying the dependent use of sex and pornography. More specifically, how people respond psychologocally and behave in the relationship context, are high on the list of reasons to be addicted. How individuals respond within a relationship is the key here, not the quality of the relationship […]
What men do instead of talking.
Too many of my clients who come to me for sex addiction and porn addiction treatment do so because they can’t talk. They can’t talk to their partners, friends, family members or professionals who are trained to listen about the things that are bothering them. The result? Surprise!…they turn to escape-like behaviours to ward off […]
You Don’t Have To Be a Dog!
A renowned behavioural scientist taught dogs to salivate at the sound of a bell. Pavlov discovered ‘classical conditioning’, a process by which our brains can be automated to respond to certain stimulii. In these situations the link between stimulus and response becomes so automatic, it slips out of conscious awareness – perhaps into something sometimes […]
Reasons People Get Addicted to Sex and Porn – Part 3 – Lifetraps; How We See Ourselves In The World
Addictive behaviours don’t take hold because they are desirable and pleasurable. They serve a purpose and while that purpose exists the behaviours will continue. Addictive behaviours patterns are dysfunctional ways of dealing with something so to promote recovery work we have to identify the function of the dysfuntion. Often the function of these behaviours is […]
Sex and porn addiction is a symptom of past trauma.
This post talks about the role of trauma as a commonly occuring causal factor of addiction in my work with clients. usually a shock to clients, this idea is also reassuring as addicts come to understand that their out of control behaviours are a product of somehting that happened to them and not something wrong […]