Using porn sites, webcams, chatrooms and sexting can lead to ‘porn revenge’ when a previous ‘friend’ decides to get back at you. Don’t put yourself in this position where you risk your career, relationships, friendships and economic well-being.
Recent news stories caught our eye here at Esteem Therapy Yorkshire. A recent storyline brings home the danger of ‘porn revenge’ whereby explicit images are used after a ‘relationship’ to damage an ex. The examples in the story include pupils at a school who used pictures on mobile phones to smear exs; and adults who have also been blackmailed into having sex with their tormentors after private and indecent images were posted on the internet. In one case a taxi driver blackmailed a passenger into having sex after discovering naked images of her. A man is also said to have been threatened into having gay sex through fear a woman would post naked photos of him on Facebook.
In a high profile case involving the politician Brooks Newmark is an example of a ruined career and reputation following the sending of explicit pictures and lewd messages by mobile phone to a male journalist posing as a woman. In yet another recent case a teachers’s career is in tatters because he sent a pupil sexual messages.
Only in one of the cases did the media tell us about the ’cause’ of the individual’s inappropriate behaviours and that he is now seeking psychological help for depression.
The dangers associated with sharing explicit materials with people other than those with whom you have a committed relationship (although this in itself is at least medium risk) are immense, especially if done using digital devices. It is too easy for those people to take revenge, blackmail or just simply be nasty and destroy careers, livelihoods and relationships.
If you are compulsively dependent on on-line sexualised behaviours then taking heed of this advice will probably get the brush-off. Sadly, we know from too many of our clients that porn revenge in any of its many guises can be a deeply damaging negative consequence of sex addiction.
Before you put yourself at risk – seek help! Put pressure on yourself to get help before the behaviours mess up your life seriously. Our approach combines counselling, coaching and specific learning and cognitive strategies to turn your life around in as few as 3-6 months.