What men do instead of talking.
Too many of my clients who come to me for sex addiction and porn addiction treatment do so because they can’t talk. They can’t talk to their partners, friends, family members or professionals who are trained to listen about the things that are bothering them. The result? Surprise!…they turn to escape-like behaviours to ward off […]
Sex addiction – basic guide.
Sex and porn addiction can include excessively indulging in one or a combination of some of the following most often in secret: Porn – on/off-line images and film On-line chatting, sexting and dating via ‘hook-up’ apps Use of regular dating sites when already in a good relationship On-line use of sex workers such as web […]
How Sex and Porn Addiction Affects relationships
A high number of clients seek help for their compulsive porn use and sex-related addictive behaviours because their relationship with their partner is put at risk. Until their partners say that they are unhappy and are ready to leave many addicts do not even recognise their behaviours as unhealthy or potentially damaging. They stay in denial […]
You Don’t Have To Be a Dog!
A renowned behavioural scientist taught dogs to salivate at the sound of a bell. Pavlov discovered ‘classical conditioning’, a process by which our brains can be automated to respond to certain stimulii. In these situations the link between stimulus and response becomes so automatic, it slips out of conscious awareness – perhaps into something sometimes […]
Reasons People Get Addicted to Sex and Porn – Part 3 – Lifetraps; How We See Ourselves In The World
Addictive behaviours don’t take hold because they are desirable and pleasurable. They serve a purpose and while that purpose exists the behaviours will continue. Addictive behaviours patterns are dysfunctional ways of dealing with something so to promote recovery work we have to identify the function of the dysfuntion. Often the function of these behaviours is […]
Sex and Porn Addiction – The Power and Danger of Denial
In this recording – see link below – you can hear Steve from Esteem Therapy Yorkshire talking about denial and its catastrophic impact on sex and porn addicts. He is talking to Ian Wallace also known as The Messed-Up Counsellor @themessedupcounsellor We will be sharing some more extracts from this full length 45 minute interview […]
Esteem Therapy Conversation About Sex Addiction
Steve, the Principal Therapist at Esteem Therapy Yorks, was recently invited by The Messed Up Counsellor to participate in a podcast discussing sex and porn addiction. Here is the link to the video Steve and Ian talk about the nature of sex addiction, how it comes about, the impact on partners, recovery work and looking […]
Sex and porn addiction is a symptom of past trauma.
This post talks about the role of trauma as a commonly occuring causal factor of addiction in my work with clients. usually a shock to clients, this idea is also reassuring as addicts come to understand that their out of control behaviours are a product of somehting that happened to them and not something wrong […]
Sex and Porn Addiction – What treatment looks like…’It is simple work but there are some challenges.
Sex and Porn Addiction – What treatment looks like…’It is simple work but there are some challenges’. In a conversation with The Messed Up Counsellor, Steve Sharpe of Esteem Therapy Yorkshire explains in easy to understand terms what the treatment for sex and porn addiction looks like. Here is the link to this short video.
Finding the Best Gaming Chips for Sale: A Comprehensive Guide
When it comes to enhancing your gaming experience, the quality of your gaming chips can make a significant difference. Whether you’re a casual player or a casino operator, investing in high-quality gaming chips can elevate the atmosphere and professionalism of your games. In this article, we will explore what to look for when searching for […]