Free recovery tools those worried about their sex and porn behaviours.
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Free recovery tools those worried about their sex and porn behaviours.
My free online toolkit for recovery from sex and porn addiction now comprises 6 modules and some addictional resources. Visitors to esteemtherapyyorks.co.uk can make use of these when they need them, or clients can use them to support their sessions and long-term recovery. Here is a summary of the 6 chapters:
Module 1 - will get you started on the road to recovery from porn and sex ‘addiction’ and compulsive behaviours with 6 really easy techniques for building and fortifying your commitment to change.
Module 2 - explains the commonly accepted 'vivious' addiction 'spiral' and how it can be transformed into a virtuous cycle of positive behaviours.
Module 3 - shows how neuroscience drives sex and porn addiction and how you can begin to reverse these powerful processes to stop compulsive acting out quickly.
Module 4 - provides some tools and strategies for managing abstinence.
Module 5 - includes a powerful exercise based on CBT approaches to control withdrawal syptoms such as cravings and urges.
Module 6 - in two parts, takes you beyond initial recovery into ways of managing life-long triggering factors and opportunities which might threaten recovery and induce relapse.
Of course, I would always recommend using a specialist to support you through the initial 'getting stopped' phase as I know first hand the power and effectiveness of guided support combined with accountability that clients experience. Most will, after many years of struggling on their own, finally and rapidly move into recovery after seeking help. However, not everyone can afford the cost of personal therapy and treatment (ranging from £250 - £500 depending on individual factors) so these modules might just provide one or a few small steps (maybe even a leap or two!) for some of you not yet able or ready to enter treatment.
Before we go any further, let’s touch on the nature of commitment and why it is so vital to recovery from sex and porn addiction. Commitment to change is the most critical element of being successful in achieving full recovery from addictive behaviours. Steely determination, willpower and/or partner ultimatums can go a long way but without personal commitment to the cause you may lack the emotional and psychological momentum to behave differently when it counts.https://esteemtherapyyorks.co.uk/counselling/porn-addiction-counselling-and-treatment
By reading this you have some commitment to change and with this and the resources in the early modules of V2V your commitment WILL grow and grow. By module 3 or 4 we need to get your commitment to 100% (or more!).
Common to all addictions is the all-powerful tornado-like pull of the cravings and other maladapted neurological processes – commitment has to be bullet-proof to withstand this pull. Re-aligning the brain into what is right or wrong for you is the key to securing commitment. Think of your brain as a part of you that has been led astray by those neurological processes (more on these in later modules) and has been working almost independently to get its own biological needs met. Just several years of automated repetition by these neuro-processes gradually erode your commitment to being ‘good’. Your brain has become wired up to acting out.
Working through the following exercises will help you to re-access, reinstate, and strengthen your commitment. Slowly but surely your persistent footfall along these revitalised neural pathways to healthy aspirations will make them your brain’s automated routes of choice. Old neural pathways to addictive behaviours will fade away – like untrodden forest trails in a far off landscape!
If you or your client are not sure about how to go forward just complete module 1 where there are several simple, small steps in the form of reflective activities which will help shift your mindset into one ready for change, be it self-managed or treatment-led.
