Sex and Porn Addiction News

Mouthwash, campfires and porn - the link is obvious when you think about it!

Todays blog is verging on the partisan, but it is not my intention to make political, moral or social pronouncements, tempted as I am.  But I was struck yesterday by the publicity a certain mouthwash manufacturer gained by ‘giving’ supplies of its product to researchers at a university in Wales. The research was to find out if the product killed the Covid-19 virus – which it did, not surprisingly as it contains a level of alcohol and other chemicals which are already known to kill bugs.  Despite other media outlets setting out the limitations of relying on such a pr.. Read More

Life doesn't have to be solitary, poor, nasty, brutish, and short.

My last news blog was on the topic of 'pacifiers' and how adults use grown-up versions of them to soothe themselves from such as low self-esteem, anger or perhaps procrastination.   I made reference to a brillant song by Yello which goes on to use the dark sea as a metaphor for life's struggles, confusion and isolation.  I didnt know it then but but I had made an inadvertent link with my next blog idea which is based on the well-known and dark quote from Thomas Hobbes, the 17th century philosopher when he described life as "solitary, poor, nasty, brutish.. Read More

Why This, Why That, and Why

If you haven’t heard this song before, a collaboration between Jean Michel Jarre and the Swiss band Yello, then I recommend it highly.  I was struck by a verse that goes like this:   When I was thrown into this planet I didn’t know what was going on I was messing with my pacifier All day long. https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=ifFfxrnUuFs   I think the song is all about the same topic as the usual type of pop song lyric and is something along the lines of ‘why are we here and what is life all about?’ But this line has a special mea.. Read More

How Sex and Porn Addiction Affects relationships

A high number of clients seek help for their compulsive porn use and sex-related addictive behaviours because their relationship with their partner is put at risk.  Until their partners say that they are unhappy and are ready to leave many addicts do not even recognise their behaviours as unhealthy or potentially damaging.  They stay in denial until something bad happens or is imminent.  Many men in particular bring their addictive behaviours into a committed relationship and continue with them in secret – such as looking at porn or sexting – and somehow.. Read More

Free Resources For Sex and Porn Addiction - getting started.

This is module 1 of my free online toolkit for recovery from sex and porn addiction.   Module 1 will get you started on the road to recovery from porn and sex ‘addiction’ and compulsive behaviours with 6 really easy techniques for building and fortifying your commitment to change.    Before we go any further, let’s touch on the nature of commitment and why it is so vital to recovery from sex and porn addiction.  Commitment to change is the most critical element of being successful in achieving full recovery from addictive behavio.. Read More