Denial is the biggest block to getting treated for sex and porn addiction
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Denial is the biggest block to getting treated for sex and porn addiction
Porn and sex addicts can stay in denail for many, many years before finally experiencing serious negative consequences which finally push them to get help for their problem. Some of my clients have been in denial for 30 years, telling themselves that daily porn use or the use of escorts is somehow 'needed' or even 'normal.
Denial is distorted thinking. Addicts somehow manage to convince themselves, usually unconsciously and automatically, that their behaviours are not a problem and by doing so give themselves a licence to carry on self-destructing. In most cases, addicts eventually come to me because their job, relationship, marriage, reputation or finances are in serious jeopardy. The advice is, don't wait for the worst to happen to convince you there might be a problem - talk to a specialist in sex and porn addiction and get it under control and protect those people you care about and yourself a lot of serious emotional and psychological damage that will take many months to work through. Some negative consequences can take many years to overcome such as losing a job or possibly having the police involved. A lost marriage will impact on you and your children for many years.
Here at Esteem, I find that many potential clients, perhaps like yourself, struggle to make the break through denial. They might emerge from denial briefly to phone me or text but then disappear back into their behaviours for several months or even years. Those that do break through the denial and shame and receive help are always massively surprised and relieved at how non-judgemental our support is and how simple and effective the treatment is once started. So be aware if you are putting barriers in the way of getting help early enough; are you making excuses about time or travel or money? If so, think about the worst scenario instead and put those trivial 'barriers' into perspective because the worse might happen down the line without intervention. Don't wait - act!
